How and When to tell the child about their story
How and When to Tell Your Child Their IVF or Surrogacy Story

How and When to Tell Your Child Their IVF or Surrogacy Story
At Global Nest Family, we understand that each family's journey to parenthood is unique, and sometimes, it begins with a bit of extra support. If your child was conceived through IVF or surrogacy, you might be asking yourself: "What do I tell them? When is the right time to start?"
Rest assured, you're not alone. Many parents have these questions, and the good news is there are caring, honest ways to share your family's story.
Why It's Important to Share Their Story
Children flourish in environments built on trust and openness. Research and real-life experiences demonstrate that children who learn about their origins early—especially in positive, age-appropriate ways—develop a sense of security, pride, and connection.
By making your child's story a natural part of family life, you help them build a strong sense of identity and belonging.
When do you think it's best to start the conversation?
Experts recommend starting early—sometimes even before your child can fully understand the details. This doesn't mean a big, formal "reveal." Instead, weave their story into everyday conversations from the start.
If your child grows up knowing they were born with the help of IVF or a surrogate, it simply becomes part of their story—free from secrecy or confusion.
How to Talk to Your Child About IVF or Surrogacy
Use Simple, Loving Language:
For little ones, you might say, "We needed some help to bring you into our family, and some wonderful people made it possible."
Normalize Different Family Journeys: Explain that families are created in many ways, all of them special.
Answer Questions Honestly: Kids are naturally curious. Be prepared to answer questions at any age, and always respond with honesty and warmth.
Be Positive and Proud: Celebrate Your Family's Journey. Show your child that you are proud of how your family came to be.Talking About Donors or Surrogates
A kind-hearted person gave us a special gift to help us welcome you into our lives. If your child was born with the support of a donor or surrogate, feel free to share your story in a way that feels comfortable and right for your family. For example:
- "A kind woman called a surrogate helped carry you until you were ready to be born."
Should You Tell Others?
This is a personal choice. Some families share their story openly, others prefer privacy. What matters most is that your child hears their story from you first, in a loving, supportive way.
Tips for a Positive Conversation
Begin with easy facts and gradually add more details as your child gets older. Children's books about IVF, surrogacy, and donor conception can help make the story feel relatable and uplifting. Remember, this isn't a one-time chat. Stay open to discussing it again as your child's understanding develops.
At Global Nest Family, our support doesn't end when your baby is born. We're here to guide you through every stage—including these important conversations. If you need resources, book suggestions, or guidance, our team is always ready to help.
Your child's story is beautiful—because it's theirs and because it's yours. By sharing it with honesty and love, you give them the confidence and pride to embrace who they are.
If you have questions or would like to connect with other families on this journey, please don't hesitate to reach out to us anytime. We're here for you, every step of the way.
Remind them often that they are loved, wanted, and cherished.